Developing an addiction doesn’t happen overnight. While there are many roads to addiction, everyone has their own journey. And, more often than not, these journeys may include some moments you are less than proud to claim as your own. However, it’s important to understand that acceptance of these situations and feelings is vital to recovery success. Without acceptance in recovery, it’s incredibly difficult to move past negative thinking and establish healing.
What is Acceptance?
Noone is perfect. We all make mistakes. And, horrible things can happen to anybody. However, it’s up to us to determine how we react to these situations and mistakes. When you get to treatment for addiction, there will be things you may not wish to dive into. However, keeping these emotions bottled up deep inside only retains the negative feelings. In recovery, the goal is to heal. But, how can you heal if you keep telling yourself that you’re not good enough? Acceptance is being able to love yourself and be okay with your past, no matter the circumstances.
While you may think you have gained self-acceptance during your time at treatment, your earliest days in recovery will still be a challenge to this acceptance. It’s when things start to go wrong that many people start to see that their acceptance may have been on the surface. Simple mistakes can lead to self-judgment. Self-judgment can lead to self-damaging behaviors like the beginning stages of relapse. Additionally, people in recovery may mistakenly over-accept others, allowing manipulation and neglecting to establish healthy boundaries.
The Overwhelming Importance of Acceptance in Recovery
Without developing true and lasting acceptance of yourself and your past, it’s likely that you will come into contact with relapse frequently. True acceptance is understanding who you are and what you’ve been for, but loving yourself anyway. Without that, you will constantly doubt your decisions, your actions, and even your beliefs. Additionally, acceptance doesn’t always mean accepting the past but accepting who you are now and in the future as well. So, if you’re sure that you’ve made peace with your past but continue to act in ways damaging to your recovery or even true self, acceptance doesn’t mean much.
Methods to Gaining Acceptance in Recovery
Fortunately, there are a few effective methods of working on acceptance in recovery. Some of these methods may include:
Mindfulness Meditation: Being in the present can help us to accept both the past and future. Plus, it can help us to determine who we need and want to be. Mindfulness is the practice of living in the present moment. Meditating while practicing mindfulness is proven to help individuals establish greater acceptance.
Practicing Humility: You are human. Understanding this is humility. You have faults, you make mistakes, and you’re bound to need help sometimes. Studying this will allow you to establish acceptance that goes beyond superficial limitations.
Identifying Faults: When you know what you’re good and bad at, you’re more likely to accept yourself. Before you can accept your downfalls, you have to know what they are. Identifying your faults can be a great way to start working on the strength of your acceptance.
Need Help with Acceptance in Recovery?
If you’ve found that you need to learn how to accept yourself so that you can be more successful on your recovery journey, a sober living environment may help! Here at The Lily Pad of St. Augustine, we offer a number of sober living homes to allow women in recovery to work on their sobriety goals within a support system. If you think you could benefit from a sober living environment, contact us today!